When One Door Closes....

Almost everyone has been in a painful or sorrowful situation when a friend, a relative, perhaps a clergy member has offered consolation by reminding the person suffering that, when one door closes another one opens. It's meant to offer solace and to remind people going through hard times that there will be better opportunities and experiences some time in the future.

Have you had that said to you? If so, I'd bet good money that the person trying to console you did not tell you the rest of the quotation. I never heard it, and I've seen quite a few winters. Attributed allegedly to the inventor of the telephone, Alexander Graham Bell, the complete quote goes like this:
When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so regretfully upon the closed door that we don't see the one that has opened for us. 
So if you're longing disconsolately for what is gone or lost, you could easily completely ignore the new opportunities being offered to you at the same time. What a waste that would be, no?

But have no fear if you're in mediation when this happens. One of the mediator's tasks is to focus your attention on the doors that are or will soon open. Your task is to tear your attention from that closed door.